Formost people, change induces a certain level of anxiety. Which is completelynatural, but also tragic because change is where all the growth and developmentlives. Just add another painful paradox to the list of what it means to behuman. Big change is hard, but dealing with difficulties and solving problemsmakes us more resilient and more interesting in the end. If you’re in the midstof a transition, a new job, a move—give yourself space to mess it up, and knowthat you will. You can’t always control your emotions, but you can control whatyou do with them.
And there are ways to cope – you are notwithout resources! Here are some strategies and ideas for dealing with a bigshift:
Having realistic goals helps. When we set an attainable goal for ourselves and meet it, it leavesus feeling calmer and in control. Goal setting is a great way to neutralize theanxiety that uncertainty brings. This tactic is about building hope by way ofthe small wins. Set yourself up for success, (even if it feels a littlecontrived) and start with a daily list. Knock a few things off that baby andyou’ll be feeling back to your badass self in no time.
Become obsessed with optimism. I know, some of you might want to throat punch me for this one.But it works. Optimism is a skill that needs practice, you’re not always bornwith it, and changing our mindset or language can have a big fat impact. Ifyou’re stuck dreading the new thing, you’ll miss all the beauty in between. Tryto be present and just notice. Slow down a little – just enough to notice thisexact moment and your surroundings.
Empathy is the answer. This little tool of compassion makes us better. Empathy requires youto be open and, sometimes, even vulnerable, which is why we tend to avoid it.Truly, genuinely feeling with another human is a very sacred space, whereyou’re required to do nothing but simply be present. That feeling of solidaritywith another is the best way to gain perspective on our lives, ourrelationships, our priorities. When wefeel connected, we feel seen, and suddenly the things we stress about don’tfeel so daunting.
Give yourself parameters. That means creating space to manage all the extra things coming atyou. Maybe this is your moment to do less of something that you don’t love.Giving yourself the ability to press pause on something and then pick it uplater doesn’t make you a quitter – it relieves the pressure and will make youcalmer and happier in the long run. Prioritize sleep and rest and don’t crowdyour life with lesser priorities that no longer serve you. Ask yourself today:What can I remove from my life to ensure I have the capacity to manage incomingstress?
My friends, go into change with an openheart and a curious mind. Change is always a good thing in the end and feelinguncomfortable means you’re growing, becoming a better and more well-roundedperson. Cheers to change!
