For most people, change induces a certain level of anxiety. Which is completely natural, but also tragic because change is where all the growth and development lives. Just add another painful paradox to the list of what it means to be human. Big change is hard, but dealing with difficulties and solving problems makes us more resilient and more interesting in the end. If you’re in the midst of a transition, a new job, a move—give yourself space to mess it up, and know that you will. You can’t always control your emotions, but you can control what you do with them.
And there are ways to cope – you are not without resources! Here are some strategies and ideas for dealing with a big shift:
Having realistic goals helps. When we set an attainable goal for ourselves and meet it, it leaves us feeling calmer and in control. Goal setting is a great way to neutralize the anxiety that uncertainty brings. This tactic is about building hope by way of the small wins. Set yourself up for success, (even if it feels a little contrived) and start with a daily list. Knock a few things off that baby and you’ll be feeling back to your badass self in no time.
Become obsessed with optimism. I know, some of you might want to throat punch me for this one.But it works. Optimism is a skill that needs practice, you’re not always born with it, and changing our mindset or language can have a big fat impact. If you’re stuck dreading the new thing, you’ll miss all the beauty in between. Try to be present and just notice. Slow down a little – just enough to notice this exact moment and your surroundings.
Empathy is the answer. This little tool of compassion makes us better. Empathy requires you to be open and, sometimes, even vulnerable, which is why we tend to avoid it.Truly, genuinely feeling with another human is a very sacred space, where you’re required to do nothing but simply be present. That feeling of solidarity with another is the best way to gain perspective on our lives, our relationships, our priorities. When we feel connected, we feel seen, and suddenly the things we stress about don’t feel so daunting.
Give yourself parameters. That means creating space to manage all the extra things coming at you. Maybe this is your moment to do less of something that you don’t love.Giving yourself the ability to press pause on something and then pick it up later doesn’t make you a quitter – it relieves the pressure and will make you calmer and happier in the long run. Prioritize sleep and rest and don’t crowd your life with lesser priorities that no longer serve you. Ask yourself today:What can I remove from my life to ensure I have the capacity to manage incoming stress?
My friends, go into change with an open heart and a curious mind. Change is always a good thing in the end and feeling uncomfortable means you’re growing, becoming a better and more well-rounded person. Cheers to change!
